With time I get more aware of the darker side of motivation - my own as well as other people’s. I notice that in ascendency I am well capable of coaxing and subtly manipulating. Then, having used the situation, might move on, sometimes burning the bridge as I go. This is not the whole picture of course but it’s some of it.

Being aware of this should not serve as a moral instruction to desist. It’s part of the process and necessary for success in the world. Playing power games and summoning the dark side is an essential skill. However, maybe some self-awareness of the pattern might help limit any damage done in the passing.