The female attitude toward relationship could almost be described as quasi-professional. Most women approach their partnership status with the same degree of seriousness and application an ambitious man might his career.

My instincts to relationships by contrast are more recreational. I’m passionate and no less serious about them in the way that some regular guy might be passionate about his football. It’s not his profession or vocation, nor does he seek to earn his keep from it. It’s just an important part of his life.

Women see relationship more like a job. It equates with their station in life and thus they derive a sense of place from it. This allows them to accept the mundanity of it all, to accept the half-interested man with all his flaws, sometimes the more flawed the more interesting he can seem. Almost romantic in some dubious way that his lesser aspects can be morphed into what passes for love.

I don’t want someone who “loves” these lesser aspects of me. I would prefer to be condemned for them and have the higher functions, such as they exist, encouraged that I am made better than I would otherwise be. I don’t need someone who tunes into my weaknesses and virtually perpetuates my degeneracy.

Traditionally of course it was through a man that a woman gained legitimacy in the world. Her financial security and position was determined by the man’s authority. Add to this social fact the biological dimension and it’s no surprise that things are as they are.

Maybe I hear feminists at the door after blood for these utterances. But surely they must be just as disappointed as me to learn that many/most women behave in this way. Maybe they just don’t want to take it on board and who could blame them. It undermines everything they ever stood for.