When it comes to coaxing, it is better if you can coax people into doing what they want to do anyway.

To do this successfully you have to be imaginative. You have to get a sense of who a person is and what they want. You have to think of others not just in terms of yourself but in terms of their own likes, dislikes and values. You should do that pretty quickly in a new situation and know whether any kind of good connection (work, partnership, association, whatever) is possible.

Yes you will be compromised. You may need to take more of another’s issues into account than is comfortable. That easily gets to be too much. People take advantage and seek to get more than they give. Conflict looms and such conflicts can be stress-inducing, sapping energy.

Does it have to be that way? I think not. By seeking understanding of the other and taking into account their needs alongside one’s own allows scope for synergy. The potentials for this are far greater than is realised although the contemporary moral climate inhibits these potentials. Time to change that.