We are all of us as much a danger to each other as we are a comfort. And it is something of a nightmare scenario when the solace turns destroyer. It is probably this before anything else that leads humans so resolutely into exclusive relationships. They are an attempt to create safe zones free from harm. Most forms of kinship seek to do this and in this sense are motivations from a negative thing. Certainly they have positive elements but essentially they are motivations based on fear. When these exclusive arrangements also get treacherous, as they often do, the plight is worse. People are left damaged and floundering, casting around for new partnerships to fill the gap. The more this happens the more the desperation and the increasing likelihood that the damage done will be carried over into the new associations to continue the story.

The grand solution returns to my central theme: the need for better human relations and a better understanding of the emotional constitution. It is also about values and the kind of ethical framework that would emerge from psychological intelligence and the ensuing improvement in relationship life. If a higher value was accorded to relationship - less about how things are and more about how things connect - then the world would be a better place to inhabit. This would be the genuine route to freedom before any political or social movement. A society so constituted would be able to face the ordinary trials of existence more successfully than is currently the case when much resource is taken up dealing with delinquency in human behaviour. God knows these trials are hard enough without the unwanted and unnecessary inhumanity of man to man.