When it comes to high and low expectation, keeping it low with respect to other people is often a safer bet. One is less prone then to disappointments.

It is the case that the closer the relationship the more the expectation is raised. More demands are put on to those bonded to or partnered with. The higher the expectation the greater the chance of being let down and thereby the stresses on close relationships are greater and thus their integrity potentially threatened.

With low expectation relationships by contrast it is possible to place the expectation so far down the spectrum such that one is less affected by the other’s detrimental behaviour. There is the irony. By this, it can be easier to get along with people one is not especially close to or has designs and hopes projected on or has any future invested.

The further stupidity is that the supposed “loved one” who doesn’t meet the expectation can end up being treated with contempt whereas the person of lower rank can be engaged freely and easily and in some respects quite constructively. The desired relationship is negative, the undesired one is positive. It’s a bit daft that is it not?