Somebody said men are simple they just need a biscuit and a blow job! I dig the comedic wisdom in that remark. Male sexuality appears less complex than female. A sexy woman will be attractive to most men. Like dog to bone they will be drawn in some way.

For the woman that she is only being appreciated for her femininity might diminish the value of her attractiveness in her own eyes. Her sexuality is more complex, the physical attraction to the male being only partial, sometimes very partial indeed. Her sexuality is made up of a variety of other elements, significantly that her identity in the world is tied up with her relationship to the man and to family life. Hence there are woman who feel almost no purely sexual attraction to their men and yet still remain deeply wedded to them. Add the biological imperative of child-rearing and the deal is sealed.

I notice that men and women don't have great understanding each of the other sexually. They too easily assume that their counterpart feels something similar to what they do. I think this is rarely the case. I think the best relationships are when the trans-sexual aspects are better understood and even shared to some extent. By that I mean that the man has a feel for the feminine and the woman for the masculine. This is what Jung was on about with his concepts of the anima and animus.

Some degree of reciprocity however it manifests is always a good thing. Our present culture is so philosophically dumb that such insights are lost. Thus, relationships between men and women continue to be played out poorly.