I think that your relationships are better if you are interesting to others in the way you want to be. From my experience this is quite rare. It is more common that relationships are instrumental whereby each uses the other for something needed.

Instrumental relationships aren’t all bad though. The better ones are where there is at least a reasonable trade: one gives, the other gets which is then reciprocated. This is fair but not that great. It is providing. Something is given in order that something be taken back with no necessary consideration for how glad the transaction.

Obviously mutual providing is better than something being taken with nothing given back at all. But best is when each is just as satisfied in the giving as in the taking. When someone has an interest in you in the way you want to be interesting, when someone receives gratefully the thing you want to give, when giving and receiving are truly mutual, that is the mark of good relationship.