I think of humans as aesthetic animals. The word aesthetic literally means feeling - as in anaesthetic meaning non-feeling. Instead of the five senses it should be the five feelings because everything that is experienced by humans - from a cup of tea to an orgasm - is experienced as feeling.

Love is not a thing, it's a feeling, or a whole range of feelings in flux. Hence people who love each other can also hate each other and all points in between. Even rationality is a type of feeling. It is the feeling that everything is separated out into neat piles and categories. When an understanding comes that’s another feeling. The understanding can then be used to address further experiences in the world (more feelings). Seeing the world as atoms and sub-atoms for example lead to the invention of nuclear weapons and personal computers. The existence of atoms came first as an intuition (a feeling) then later as a verifiable fact.

If what I'm saying is true it is better to go forward with a sense of how things feel rather than how things are. Consistent with Kant, it can never be known how things really are, only how they appear, more particularly how they feel.

So, rather than understand feelings as something else, something hidden and internal, something private to be concealed, something subjective, it would be better to think of everything in experience as feeling, and therefore allow feelings to be explored and fully reckoned with. I think this would make for better mental health generally which in turn would feed into relationships. With better relationships comes better communities and a better world.

When it comes to finding a workable philosophy, if there is anything even remotely like the holy grail, the perfect panacea, the heaven on earth, then I'd say this is as close as it gets.